Disability Grant To Help Accident Disabled Mary With TBI Live Autonomously
by Mary Milliman
(Ponca City, Oklahoma, USA)
My name is Mary Milliman and I am 44 years old, currently living in Ponca City, OK.
I have three beautiful daughters, ages 22, 20 and 18! They are all off in college or testing the waters of adulthood!
After I graduated high school in 1988, I went to Bryan Institute to become a Dental Assistant, which had been my dream since I was eight.
I worked for three years and then got pregnant and married (in that order). I had two more daughters with my ex-husband.
I was a stay-at-home mom and loved it. I had to go back to work after my divorce in 1998 and I worked at the girls' daycare because I was terrified to leave them.
I then worked in manager positions at three big Tulsa stores.
In April of 2002 I was in a horrific car accident. I was thrown from the car and flew 75 feet. Then the car rolled on me.
I am left with a traumatic brain injury, seizure disorder, stroke, memory loss, ADHD, bipolar disorder, OCD and borderline personality disorder.
My life as I knew it is over. I had to learn to do pretty much everything all over again - walking, talking, feeding myself - everything. I could not care for my daughters so they went to live with their father.
I lived with family until 2010 when I decided I wanted to be independent.
I cannot hold a job because I do not know how I will feel mentally or physically on any given day.
I did volunteer for a month at a hospice in Dallas where I lived with my brother and his family but I could not deal with the emotions or stress.
I was granted SSI in 2004.
Money issues are concerning because most of my doctors are in Oklahoma City and that requires a four-hour round trip.
I do not drive for a lot of reasons but mostly the seizure disorder. My boyfriend usually has to take time off work.
I am very grateful for all the help I get from the government but I am on many medications and I get four a month through Sooner Care but I have to pay full price for the others.
I need two more knee operations, one a complete replacement.
My back pain is unbearable some days and my doctor has recommended I see a specialist.
My right ankle and foot also need to be broken and set again. All this overwhelms me.
I will need someone to help me because my boyfriend has to work.
I just see that I need so much money that I don't have.
I did actually work for my brother, who is a psychotherapist, by phone. I was his scheduler for two weeks. I ha to quit when the stress of not being on my normal schedule caused me to become manic and I freaked out.
I share rent, utilities, gas and food with my boyfriend. He still has two teenage boys in high school so his money is limited.
I receive $721 in SSI a month and $41 from the State of Oklahoma in a supplemental check a month.
My food stamps are $72 per month.
I have learned about the food bank here in Ponca City because sometimes their help is needed and greatly appreciated.
I need help with the repetitive expenses of travel, monthly bills and medications.
I would like to get my teeth fixed also. I lost seven in the wreck and have had no coverage to get them replaced.
I would just like some relief from the anxiety and the mental obsession of it all. My family has helped but when I decided to make a go of it myself they were not happy.
I don't ask them because they helped me for so long. It is my turn to do it. I want to do it.
I would also like a month of not having to choose between medications and food.
It would be so great if I could get the help I need and also do these surgeries because I'm not getting any younger and my body hurts.
Thank you so much for your time.