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Disability Grant To Help Hip Dysplasia Disabled Cerise With Debt Relief And Housing

by Cerise Armstrong
(Suisun City, California, USA)

I'm a 47-year-old disabled single mother who lives with constant physical pain and suffers with manic depression.

Cerise With Baby At Different Stages
Cerise With Baby At Different Stages

The first 10 years of my life, I was a victim of severe child abuse by my mother. At the age of 10, I was removed from my mother and placed into group homes and foster homes.

Living in group homes and foster homes was not a walk in the park. Under these conditions I quickly learned street survival techniques. With these new techniques, I came to an understanding that "The strong will stay alive." But a person can only stay strong for so long before the "strength" takes its toll.

Disability Issues

Twenty years ago, I was diagnosed with hip dysplasia in both hips. I was also informed that my right hip would need to be replaced in the near future.

Not taking the doctors' advice. I just kept pushing myself with my daily routines. After many years of pushing myself I came point where I started to walk with a severe limp on my right side.

Not realizing the limp I lived with would eventually affect my other hip, lower back and completely blow out my right hip, I soon felt tremendous pain every step I took.

After six years with this unbearable pain I finally surrendered with my white flag and started to make plans to get my hip right replaced. This plan had to work around my work and school schedules so it took several months to organize.

On the day of my operation, I was escorted to the pre-op room with my boyfriend at that time. While the medical staff started to prep me for the operation, one of the nurses asked me for a final urine sample.

While waiting, I changed into a beautiful hospital gown and the lovely nurses prepped me for the IV solution. (You know the needles in the hand...) Getting ready to be wheeled in to the operating room, the nurse whom asked for a final "urine test" ran to my unit and said, "Stop everything; she's pregnant"

I then started thinking to myself. "Who? ME? "I was completely in shock and thousands of thoughts were running through my head all at once. I was truly freaking out inside my soul.

As I was trying to gather my thoughts after hearing this news, the "boyfriend " was sitting next to me trying everything to talk me out of having the baby. He then finally realized that I wasn't listening to the horrific verbiage coming out of his mouth.

He then screamed out loud he raised his KIDS!! And he wants to be FREE! I then turned to him and said, "Go be FREE!" I chose LIFE!!!! After saying this to him, he then got up and left me, and I haven't seen him since.

With this new news, as we all know the surgery I worked hard to organize did not happen. My surgeon placed me on bed rest for the entire pregnancy. I waited until my baby was four months old to re-organize another surgery for my hip replacement.

I had my surgery in 2011. Being optimistic and thinking I would heal 100% without pain, I was sadly disappointed. I now live with chronic pain in both hips and my lower back.

This condition has caused me to become severely depressed where I continue to try new antidepressant meds. However, I'm finding that none of these meds are working. Sometimes I feel these meds I'm taking make my situation worse.

I've tried to make it in the working world. However, I found this task completely unbearable. After many appointments and reviews, my doctors declared that I was permanently disabled.

When on Disability you're on a fixed income forcing you to be creative with their funds. It is not impossible but is truly difficult to do especially with a baby.

Nevertheless, with Disability there is limited dental coverage. Not able to afford dental care has resulted in fractured decaying teeth, which causes severe dental pain.

I find this devastating because I use to work in the dental field. My teeth were my pride and joy.

Watching my overall health slowly disintegrate scares me to death. Why? Because I'd like to be here to watch my baby grow up with happy memories with her mommy.

Financial Hardship

With a fixed income, I'm forced to rent in an unsafe area. This area happens to be popular with shootings and robberies. I actually had to teach my four year old how to get down when she hears the loud "firecrackers." It's like teaching us how to protect ourselves during an earthquake.
Having To Live In A Dangerous Neighborhood
Having To Live In A Dangerous Neighborhood

The good side of living here is I have the most amazing landlord. I say this because unfortunately I owe the IRS and they were taking out of my SSI check for several months putting me in a financially bind.

With this circumstance I was not able to pay many bills; I was only able to pay a small part of my rent. Unfortunately with small payments of my rent, this put me behind in my rent.

Thank goodness I was blessed with the most amazing landlord who understands my situation and works with me the best that she can. However, my landlord has a business to run and bills to pay, so I'm not sure how much more she can take.

After paying what I can for my rent I'm left with a small amount for the rest of the month to live. I've applied for my city's Section 8 housing and was placed on a waiting list. I was told that the wait for Section 8 housing could be up to 10 years or longer.

The good news is that when the Section 8 waiting list was opened, something told me to apply. I've have waited eight years and counting. I'm being optimistic because I refuse to go down without a FIGHT!

Income Efforts

I've been on my city's Section 8 housing waiting list for many years. Yes, sometimes I find myself discouraged when I see affordable homes in better areas, and I continue to wait for a safe and secure place for both myself and baby.

I then automatically change my thought process and immediately think to myself "things can be worse, I could be a homeless disabled single parent with a baby."

With food I push myself to use food program such as churches, and food banks.

I am also eligible for a supplemental nutrition assistance program called WIC. However, I'm only eligible for this program until my baby turns five years old, which is in one year. Nevertheless I'm thinking positive because lots can happen from here to now.

I also applied for our county food stamp program and I'm now waiting for a telephone interview (and keeping my fingers crossed).

Specific Needs

I would like more info on:

- Dental grants
- Housing programs
- School grants
- Mental health/pain options to better treat my chronic pain and depression.
- Extra funds to help me pay off my old remaining bill, especially my student loan and my back IRS issues.

Also I'd like to know if there is a program for plastic surgery. The reasoning for this is because when I was a little girl my mother broke my nose many times during my first 10 years of my life. She never took me to the doctors; I just healed on my own.

Unfortunately, with this situation I'm only able to breathe out of one nostril from my nose making it harder for me to sleep. Also, my nose is completely offset.

I've asked my doctor if my Medicaid insurance would cover this type of surgery. I was told that this type of surgery was considered cosmetic. This is why I ask.

Business Idea

I would like to learn how to open a non-profit organization to help failing businesses and individuals that are struggling with their needs. I would like to work from home if possible.

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Mar 12, 2016
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You're Quite a Person
by: Brie Donne

Cerise:

I'm in awe of your story.

The fact you chose to protect your daughter's just discovered life is testimony of your deep goodness. Despite being betrayed by that so-called boyfriend, you did the right thing. And despite coming from an unloving home, you still have a wellspring of love within you.

I wish you the very best in life because you deserve it. And I'm glad you have your daughter's love to sustain you through your unfair journey in the meantime. Hang in there because, as they say, the best is yet to come.

"In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world." (John 16:33)

Jan 29, 2016
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Workbook... next step
by: Don from Ability Mission

Hello Cerise,

Good for you getting your story out there!

Your next step is to access the Workbook, which shows you how to use your story to get the help you need.

Best regards,
Don Coggan

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