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Disability Grant To Help Mother Treat Depressed Bipolar Disabled Daughter

by Cheryl Dandridge
(Clinton, MD, USA)

I am married with two daughters ages 23 and 16. My husband and I have been married for 25 years. We are native Washingtonians now living in Clinton, Maryland.

I work for the Federal Government and my husband is a Police Commander. We have both been on our jobs over 24 years.

We are both only children and close to the family that we have. My 23 year old lives at home and is autistic and suffers from epilepsy.

My 16 year old is a junior in high school, and has dreams of becoming a pediatrician or pediatric nurse ever since she was 10 years old. She loves children and all children and babies tend to cling to her naturally.

Disability Issues

My 16-year-old daughter was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and suffers from depression.

She has been admitted twice to mental health facilities. She is currently on Lithium and Abilify.

She meets strangers on the Internet and engages in sexual behavior with them at their location and has brought those persons into our home several times.

She has run away six times and says she doesn't know why she's doing these acts. She has been in therapy for approximately two years and still we see no improvement.

Financial Hardship

Thus far, she has received home schooling in a school setting; however, this is where she runs away from each time and returns to a person she met on the internet.

Our daughter has told us that she no longer wants to live in our home. She would rather live with her boyfriend, the young man she met on the Internet and brought into our home and had sex with and ran away to for four days.

Financially, I am personally in $40,000 debt because I keep trying to handle everything myself meaning, health insurance, transportation, medication, psychology and psychiatrist visits, and all the daily personal needs of my 16-year-old daughter.

Health insurance pays for some things, but is limited in the services being provided. My husband and I are in a strained relationship and honestly are nearing a separation point.

His concern is the health and security of our other daughter (the 23 year old) and he refuses to contribute anything monetarily toward our 16-year-old daughter.

I work every day, but I am unable to secure a loan and have exhausted all my family means as well. I really need some financial assistance to ease the daily burdens.

My job requires a security clearance and I have to maintain credit to maintain my security clearances to maintain a job.

I had double bypass heart surgery in September 2010 and this situation is stressing me daily to include the stress from my husband!

Income Efforts

I have not received any money from outside sources other than my mother who gave me $5,000 to help me pay off a credit card bill.

According to Social Services, if I applied for SSI for my 16-year-old daughter, the incomes of both my husband and I would have to be considered and that would greatly reduce her benefits if she qualified for anything at all.

I was instructed that it would be better if she could apply on her own at age 18, but that is two years away and I am struggling now and don’t see myself making it that far.

Specific Needs

What I am seeking mostly is assistance in grant funding to place my daughter in a treatment facility that can not only address her mental health issues, but also allow her to continue her high school education and to possibly obtain her dream of becoming a pediatrician.

The research I have done thus far indicates that the best residential facilities are ranging $50,000 to $125,000 per year and I can’t afford that.

Like any parent, I want the best for my child and would do anything to get it for her, hence my current situation that I would do again.

I will walk to fire of Satan if it would give my daughter the best opportunity of success in her world of confusion!

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