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Grant Help For 100 Per Cent Fibromyalgia Disabled Vet And Single Mom Of Three

by Jaclyn
(Escondido, CA, USA)

As a 35 year old newly retired female from the Navy after 15 years and 11 months of honorable military service, I find myself struggling to keep up.

I'm preoccupied with the mortgage of my home, care for my 13-year-old daughter, five-year-old daughter and two year old asthmatic son while going through a divorce.

My husband lives only 20 miles up the road and has seen our children only once in nine months, which causes a great deal of stress and anxiety, triggering my fibromyalgia.

The chronic pain is the reason for my medical retirement as I was no longer physically or emotionally qualified to perform my duties as an Air Traffic Controller.

In 2008 I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I have several tender spots and widespread pain, which is indicative of the disease.

The chronic pelvic pain began as early as 1998, which resulted in three surgeries, the last of which was a hysterectomy.

From 2010 to retirement, I was missing two to six days of work weekly due to migraines, fibromyalgia and pelvic pain when prior to then I was able to work the varying work schedules required by the Navy and Air Traffic Control duties.

From that point, I have been continuously dealing with associated fatigue, sleep disturbance, stiffness, paresthesias, headache, irritable bowel symptoms, depression, anxiety and Raynaud's-like symptoms that are episodic, with exacerbations often precipitated by environmental or emotional stress or by overexertion with the near constant chronic pelvic pain symptoms.

Unfortunately my condition is not helped with treatment. My official status is 100% disabled.

Since my husband left, he gives me enough to cover childcare expenses but the mortgage on the house is unaffordable on my fixed income alone.

The cost of living in San Diego is high and with the roughly $3200 I'm expecting to get from the Veteran's Administration, my $2700 mortgage doesn't leave any room for other expenses. Childcare is $1400 monthly. Needless to say I am facing foreclosure.

Even if I weren't rated at the 100% disability rate, keeping employment would be nearly impossible, as my son requires almost round-the-clock treatment for his asthma.

Asthma is not considered a disability so there is no money from Social Security to help defray the cost of having to miss work to care for my ailing son.

This is my first attempt at a grant. I've been self-sufficient since 19 so asking for donations is difficult for me.

I coupon to help make the most of my money and I've looked into possibly retraining but my physical issues make finding gainful employment impossible.

I'm looking for grants to help me retain my home and for Social Security Disability Insurance for myself and for my son. Any advice on how to achieve both of these is welcome.

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