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Grant Money To Help Pain Disabled Single Mom With Medical And Living Costs

by Wendy Danser
(Roanoke Rapids, North Carolina, USA)

I am a 46-year-old pain disabled single mom with a 17-year-old son.

I reside in my mother's house. I pay rent to her. I have resided here for six years.

I am divorced. I was in an abusive relationship with my husband.

Disability Issues

I have chronic intractable severe pain. My first permanent pain injury happened in 1986. I lifted a fifty-pound bucket off of a shelf while standing on a step stool.

I fell off the stool but did not drop the bucket. The result was two bulged discs in my lower neck.

In 1989 I was diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis in my fingers, hands and feet. By 1990 the arthritis had spread to my hips, arms, shoulders, knees and ankles.

The pain became unbearable.

I had to quit my job and depend on my husband. He and his family did not understand my condition and put me down.

I was a financial burden on my husband. He got drunk often and would hit me and throw me around. I had to leave the relationship, for he was making my condition worsen.

Off and on I worked but the pain always got the best of me. I was off and on welfare and Medicaid for the majority of my life.

I went into remission in 1994 and went to work for my boyfriend. He had a food truck business and we did well for several years.

I had his son in 1996.

Six months later, my arthritis began to come back slowly beginning in my right shoulder. By 2001 my arthritis was again, full blown throughout my entire body.

My boyfriend beat me several times before I left him.

In 2005, I had a bad car accident, in which I injured my lower back and tore my left shoulder.

At that time, I only had a family doctor who tried me on several different medications for my pain and depression.

All through these years of pain and depression, I have had too many doctors to remember. I've seen every specialist known who had any skills pertaining to my problems.

I am still in severe pain despite the massive cocktail of medications I am prescribed to take.

I also have had many nerve blocks and radiofrequency procedures preformed on my neck and back.

I do get some relief from my medications and procedures. Still, I suffer every minute of every day.

I spend most of my day in bed. I can sometimes get out and drive to the grocery store.

I also suffer from migraines and headaches. I have sensitivity to light and sound. I also suffer with fatigue. I do not have much energy.

Financial Hardship

It feels like I have had financial hardship for the better part of my life.

I pay rent to my mother, which takes a big chunk out of my SSI check.

I do not have enough money to get my son and me through the month.

I haven't had a haircut in over two or more years. My son has not had a haircut in over three months.

My co-pay for my prescriptions is three dollars each. The total is around $36 a month.

Often, we eat Ramen noodles and cereal because it is cheap and easy. I cannot afford well-balanced meals for us.

My car has been neglected also. I haven't the funds to change the oil or buy tires. With my pain condition getting worse, it has become very difficult to get in and out of my car.

My bed is old and worn and gives no support to my aching body. I have to lie on my side to eat my meals.

I have trouble getting comfortable and wake often throughout the night to adjust my body for more comfort.

I cannot walk far so I stay in and have no activities to fill my days and nights.

Medicaid allots me 22 visits to doctors and specialists every year. I do not get the care I need because I need more doctor and specialist care than I am allotted. I cannot afford to pay for the care that I need.

Income Efforts

Up until the year of 2002, I have made my best effort to work when I could. I worked with my boyfriend for seven years as my condition worsened.

He did not pay me; however, he bought a house with my name on the deed. We sold the house for a small profit. I received $5,000 from the sale and bought a car and spent the rest on starting over in a new state.

I applied for Social Security. After four years, I finally won my case. I was living with my mother at that time and received welfare until I received my Social Security Income.

When I received my back income from SSI, I paid Welfare back for all monies given to me over the years, my lawyer and $2,000 for back rent and loans from my mother.

I did not take charity from anyone.

Specific Needs

At this time in my life, I feel I need a lot of help to obtain a grant for doctors, food, assistance with my rent and upkeep or a trade for my car to one that meets my physical needs.

I have no one to lean on or ask advice from. I am alone in my journey. An advocate who can help me find resources and help with my problems, both physically and mentally may be beneficial to my quality of living.

I would love someone to talk to who can emphasize with me.

My son also suffers because of me. Many times he has missed school because I was in too much pain to drive him those days. His school does not have busses that come within five miles of my home. I don't have funds for him or the energy to take him to activities.

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May 21, 2013
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by: wendy

I've put a lot of thought into a new way of eating. This is going to be very difficult. I will need to give up all bread, pasta, pretzels, etc.. I remember doing a similar diet when I was 15 yers old. My diet was simple to understand. I swore off all breads, sugars and fried food. I don't remember if I felt better. It was so long ago. I do remember how limited my food choices became. My son won't go for it, but I'm sure I can give it a try.

Misty, if you know where I can get some recipes that really fill you up, I may have more success. Again, thank you for your interest and suggestions.

May 20, 2013
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Good for you!
by: Misty

Awesome Wendy! You just let me know what I can do to help.

Don't forget, your sale circulars come out each Wednesday so look for those sales!

Be well and remember, when we eat better, we feel better. The fuel you put into your valuable machine should never be underestimated.

In good health
Misty

May 20, 2013
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RE: Misty
by: wendy

Thank you Misty for this information. I will certainly give this a try. I'm sure I can find the ingredients. I will publish my findings on this page after several weeks. Thank you again for your time and sharing your experience. :)

Apr 30, 2013
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Some advice from a nutritionist
by: Misty Humphrey

Hi Wendy

It breaks my heart to read your story. With increasing costs of living, it is difficult to be a disabled person in this Country.

Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Misty and I am a Holistic Nutrition Educator. I wanted to offer some advice to you in hopes that a little support might make a tiny difference in your life today.

I worked at Whole Foods in an income restricted area. As you might be aware, Whole Foods is not an inexpensive market so I took pride in assisting folks in value shopping.

You see, my Whole Foods Market was surrounded by HUD housing for the elderly, disabled and lower income. Many of these folks are in walking distance and this is the only grocer in their neighborhood.

My main points while providing value tours were locating food items that are the least expensive with the highest nutrient density.

Generally, my recommendations included beans, rice, leafy greens and less expensive cuts of chicken and white fish.

If you're receiving assistance for food, I would encourage these items over many processed foods such as ramen. I understand your dilemma of money, pain and the energy to do this but if I may let you know the difference in the inflammation that you will feel can be almost miraculous.

You see Wendy, wheat today has shown to be highly inflammatory and you are suffering an inflammatory injury so transitioning over to beans and rice from wheat product can prove to decrease your symptoms which in turn will give you some additional strength and energy to get you through these difficult times.

I have made this recommendation to many and it has proven to be quite successful.

Another tip I have for you is to save each and every chicken bone that you acquire and make a good old fashioned stock for yourself. This stock has proven to provide great relief naturally to the arthritis sufferer. With beneficial compounds such as collagen, calcium and hyaluronic acid, the symptoms of your injuries can be reduced.

You will find that the thighs and legs of the chicken will be your best value and these bones also make the best stock.

Something you might find interesting, by adding a cup of stock to your meal, this decreases the need for other proteins. This is what we call "protein sparing". In other words, many in less developed countries who have limited access to protein sources utilize stock to "spare their protein source". I hope this makes sense.

A nice soup with beans, rice, some greens and a bit of chicken can nourish you, reduce your inflammation and keep that young man nourished as well.

Frequently rice and beans are standard in boxes from food donations. Do you have access to your local organizations that provide free food?

I wish you well and hope that I have helped even just a little bit.

In good health,
Misty Humphrey
http://free-healthy-diet-plans.com

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