Grant Money To Help Pain Disabled Single Mom With Medical And Living Costs
by Wendy Danser
(Roanoke Rapids, North Carolina, USA)
I am a 46-year-old pain disabled single mom with a 17-year-old son.
I reside in my mother's house. I pay rent to her. I have resided here for six years.
I am divorced. I was in an abusive relationship with my husband.
I have chronic intractable severe pain. My first permanent pain injury happened in 1986. I lifted a fifty-pound bucket off of a shelf while standing on a step stool.
I fell off the stool but did not drop the bucket. The result was two bulged discs in my lower neck.
In 1989 I was diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis in my fingers, hands and feet. By 1990 the arthritis had spread to my hips, arms, shoulders, knees and ankles.
The pain became unbearable.
I had to quit my job and depend on my husband. He and his family did not understand my condition and put me down.
I was a financial burden on my husband. He got drunk often and would hit me and throw me around. I had to leave the relationship, for he was making my condition worsen.
Off and on I worked but the pain always got the best of me. I was off and on welfare and Medicaid for the majority of my life.
I went into remission in 1994 and went to work for my boyfriend. He had a food truck business and we did well for several years.
I had his son in 1996.
Six months later, my arthritis began to come back slowly beginning in my right shoulder. By 2001 my arthritis was again, full blown throughout my entire body.
My boyfriend beat me several times before I left him.
In 2005, I had a bad car accident, in which I injured my lower back and tore my left shoulder.
At that time, I only had a family doctor who tried me on several different medications for my pain and depression.
All through these years of pain and depression, I have had too many doctors to remember. I've seen every specialist known who had any skills pertaining to my problems.
I am still in severe pain despite the massive cocktail of medications I am prescribed to take.
I also have had many nerve blocks and radiofrequency procedures preformed on my neck and back.
I do get some relief from my medications and procedures. Still, I suffer every minute of every day.
I spend most of my day in bed. I can sometimes get out and drive to the grocery store.
I also suffer from migraines and headaches. I have sensitivity to light and sound. I also suffer with fatigue. I do not have much energy.
It feels like I have had financial hardship for the better part of my life.
I pay rent to my mother, which takes a big chunk out of my SSI check.
I do not have enough money to get my son and me through the month.
I haven't had a haircut in over two or more years. My son has not had a haircut in over three months.
My co-pay for my prescriptions is three dollars each. The total is around $36 a month.
Often, we eat Ramen noodles and cereal because it is cheap and easy. I cannot afford well-balanced meals for us.
My car has been neglected also. I haven't the funds to change the oil or buy tires. With my pain condition getting worse, it has become very difficult to get in and out of my car.
My bed is old and worn and gives no support to my aching body. I have to lie on my side to eat my meals.
I have trouble getting comfortable and wake often throughout the night to adjust my body for more comfort.
I cannot walk far so I stay in and have no activities to fill my days and nights.
Medicaid allots me 22 visits to doctors and specialists every year. I do not get the care I need because I need more doctor and specialist care than I am allotted. I cannot afford to pay for the care that I need.
Up until the year of 2002, I have made my best effort to work when I could. I worked with my boyfriend for seven years as my condition worsened.
He did not pay me; however, he bought a house with my name on the deed. We sold the house for a small profit. I received $5,000 from the sale and bought a car and spent the rest on starting over in a new state.
I applied for Social Security. After four years, I finally won my case. I was living with my mother at that time and received welfare until I received my Social Security Income.
When I received my back income from SSI, I paid Welfare back for all monies given to me over the years, my lawyer and $2,000 for back rent and loans from my mother.
I did not take charity from anyone.
At this time in my life, I feel I need a lot of help to obtain a grant for doctors, food, assistance with my rent and upkeep or a trade for my car to one that meets my physical needs.
I have no one to lean on or ask advice from. I am alone in my journey. An advocate who can help me find resources and help with my problems, both physically and mentally may be beneficial to my quality of living.
I would love someone to talk to who can emphasize with me.
My son also suffers because of me. Many times he has missed school because I was in too much pain to drive him those days. His school does not have busses that come within five miles of my home. I don't have funds for him or the energy to take him to activities.