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Accident Disabled Man Seeks Grant Money For Cancer Stricken Wife

by Jeff
(Frankfort, Indiana, USA)

Let me begin in 1980. I was in a motorcycle wreck as I just turned 18 that night. If there was one time I should have listened to my parents it was that day because my life changed from hard to harder.

My injuries consisted of amputated left leg above the knee, broken arms, and forever back problems.

I am 48 now and never really had a chance to enjoy a fully productive life. It was a fight every day to deal with the pain of knowing that you can't get a job and the social security says you're not disabled enough to draw disability.

I applied for over 10 years on and off. I had no work history. But I also had two sons and a wonderful girlfriend. We are still together to this day over 30 years.

Here's where the story changes. I finally received SSI and that helped. After so many dead ends and doors shut in our faces asking for help things might just look up a little.

Marsha got a job at a bolt factory and worked for two years. Half of that time, she complained of some abdomen pain but never missed work.

She is an amazing woman and can overcome anything I thought. In 2005, she was diagnosed with colon cancer. She applied for Medicaid and was denied for months because they said she made too much money for that time period.

Another door shut until we borrowed money for her to go to the doctor. Well she got emergency Medicaid and paid for the surgery.

This part is very hard to write. After the surgery she had to have chemotherapy. Medicaid paid for three treatments; she needed eight.

There was no way we had funds to pay that kind of medical expense so there was no chemo to kill all the cancer cells.

In 2007, she is having side pain. She goes to the doctor. She wants a biopsy and another big blow hits us. She has gotten liver cancer.

I can't tell you how many nights I watched her in pain but she got on Medicaid right away this time but still didn't stop the pain.

To watch the one you love in pain and you cannot do anything tears your insides out. You cry to yourself when they are asleep so you can be strong for them when they are awake.

So now she is on chemo until surgery. Along with the pain of the liver cancer you have the sickness of the chemo. To watch this will tear you completely apart but you got to be strong for them.

Surgery takes place and you walk into the recovery room. Tubes are everywhere. Nurses, doctors, machines running and you can do nothing but be beside her and gently hold her hand and pray she is alright and tell her how much you love her.

She can't see you right now so you cry because she hurts so bad. The tumor was about a pound and three inches around.

And now you are home but it's not over. There are meds every day, and chemo every two weeks, CAT scans every 30 days and still being sick.

Well the last CAT scan was not good. She has bile duct cancer. It is inoperable. This was devastating but you know she has stayed strong through all of this and has been through so much and is still going through so much.

She has chemo and it makes her sick. She has a stint replaced every three months and still Marsha remains strong. She has given so much to her kids and me. Does she deserve a little something? I would think so.

We are both disabled. I believe she has been just as strong for me and our kids even though she couldn't get out of bed.

We have tried everywhere to get help and have met dead ends or gone on wild goose chases that lead nowhere.

All I would ask for is enough to make her house comfortable. The lapboard siding is falling off. The furnace is 19 years old and the windows and frames are soft and the chimney is falling in. The foundation is bad too. Is it a healthy house? No!

So please, if you can find it in your heart to help we would greatly appreciate it. If you read this and would like pictures I will more than gladly send them. Thank you for any help you can recommend.

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Apr 06, 2010
Well Written!
by: Mary

My heart goes out to you. I pray that you will be able to access the help you need.

Your story was moving and you were very detailed. I can tell you put a lot of thought into it.

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