Accident Disabled Quadriplegic Single Mother Of Three Seeks Housing Grant
(Lake Butler, FL, USA)
I am a 33-year-old, accident disabled quadriplegic single mother of three. I have two boys, age 12 and 10, and a five-year-old daughter.
In 2008, I was involved in a car accident. I was coming home from a doctor's appointment on the interstate and my rear passenger tire blew causing me to lose control.
I flipped several times before coming to rest upside down. I suffered from a concussion, so I don't remember anything but getting in the car.
After being in trauma, ICU, extended hospital care, rehab and a nursing home I decided to pursue a lawsuit.
The car I was driving belonged to my daughter's grandparents. It was found, through investigation, that the tire was dry-rotted. This caused a lot of tension between us because they didn't understand the process of getting the insurance company to cooperate.
I am a quadriplegic with a complete C5 spinal cord injury. I have movement of my arms, but not my hands. Over time I have learned to do many things on my own.
I am typing this letter with a pencil that's wedged between my fingers. That's just one of many things I have learned to do in a new way.
The day of my accident, I had left my fiancé and my 14-month-old daughter at home. My boys were in school. My fiancé and I were living in a home that was bought jointly just a few months after our daughter was born.
Everything changed after my accident. My fiancé stuck around for maybe a month. He then had my boys pack some clothes in a garbage bag and dropped them off at my parents' house. He kept our daughter with him.
A couple of weeks later, he married his ex and moved in with her. He stole things out of our home such as major appliances that were built in to the cabinets.
He took dishes, home decor, my kids' beds and furniture. He even took the fireplace set that includes the poker.
When my mother and my boys told me, I was devastated. At that point I was ready to give up on keeping the home. He wasn't making payments or maintaining the home.
After talking to the bank, I decided to move back into my home. A good friend of mine got the yard cleaned up. The grass was very high and my ex had thrown trash down in the backyard.
My ex left me with a $300 light bill that had to be paid before they would turn it back on. My friend got some family and people from the community to have a yard sale. She raised the money for my light bill and some appliances.
When I turned the lights on, she went over to my house to do some cleaning and walked into a wet mess. My ex took the refrigerator and the dishwasher which both had water connections. So, when the water came on, water was spraying from both sides of the kitchen.
When she got there, the water covered the whole kitchen floor and wet the living room carpet. With the help of my good friend and my mom, my appliances were replaced.
My ex took the countertop stove and the oven that was built-in. I priced ovens and I couldn't afford to replace it, so my friend was given an oven, but I didn't have a place to put it. Her dad took out the counter where the burners were at so that the stove would fit.
I couldn't have paid anyone to do the things they did for me. My home wouldn't have been livable without their help.
When I made it home I didn't have a CNA coming in and my Medicaid was cut back for a couple months. I relied on friends to take care of me and my home.
I had trouble getting my catheter supplies so I stayed in and out of the emergency room. I had to rent a hospital bed and a Hoyer Lift. Medicaid covered the bed, but the lift was $90 a month.
A CNA that worked with me at the nursing home told me she had a Hoyer Lift she'd sell to me for $75. I got it immediately. I was able to get my power chair through Medicaid before I came home.
I have had a job since I was 17 years old. So, after about a year at home, I decided to try getting a job with the help of a local agency. After a lot of thought, I decided that it would be too overwhelming.
Along with my paralysis I suffer from attention deficit disorder, anxiety and depression. I also have muscle spasms and neuropathy.
I receive social security, lifeline assistance to help pay my phone bill, a Medicaid Waiver program that pays for personal care and homemaking plus my non-medical supplies and help from my friends and my mom.
I don't have the physical capacity to hold a job. So, my only source of income is social security.
I need a handicap accessible van that can be driven by me or someone else. I am limited to doctors' appointments with the local transport and I can't schedule them any later than 12:00. I can't go shopping, go to my boys' sports events and fieldtrips, or even go to the convenience store.
I need a lawyer because my ex moved out of state with our daughter one day after telling me he was moving. There is no court order for custody or visitation.
I also would like to find out if I am entitled to disability along with my social security.
My home is in foreclosure due to delinquent payments. I need to find out if there is a grant that would help me keep my home or relocate.