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Depression Disabled Widow Wants Grants For Home Repairs and Bills

by Carlas Duke
(Brunswick, GA, USA)

Hello, I am a 46-year-old mother of three. My husband passed away on January 9, 2013. We were married for 17 years.

My son is 25 and has been married for four and a half years. He is in the U.S. Army. Right now he is stationed in Afghanistan.

I also have two daughters, ages 16 and 13. My husband and I were foster parents for three years, which is how we got our daughters. We adopted them in 2008. When they came into our home a few years before the adoption was final, we felt like our family was complete.

Disability Issues

I became disabled first. I was always in pain, all over and no one knew why. I also suffered from agoraphobia.

It started in the late 80s. I was told by my doctor to file for disability in the early 1990s and by 1993 I was approved.

I suffered from severe depression due to the pain and from not knowing what caused the pain. I had a fear of large open spaces and new places and I felt like walls were closing in on me.

I will never forget the feeling of getting insurance. I could go to a psychiatrist and get some help. It took several years, but I started learning ways to function.

I still get nervous in stores if I am there too long. I won’t go to a new place alone. I only go alone to places I am used to and where I know the people, but I am better than when I first started out.

I now know the pain is fibromyalgia. My husband was also disabled due to his weight, but he is deceased now.

Financial Hardship

I get a check from Social Security for me and my two daughters and an adoption assistance check for the girls. I only get these once a month.

I have more going out than I have coming in. I am not wasteful. I do not spend on toys or games or such. I have not bought anything unneeded for my children since Christmas.

I try to only buy food, my medication co-pays, and just things we have to have. Usually by the third week of the month we start running out of food and my family and friends help me.

I need to make repairs on my house such as the floors, ceilings, and roof.

Income Efforts

Since I am unable to work outside of the home, I depend on my Social Security income, adoption assistance, and help from family and friends.

Last month I had to take out a loan from a loan company. That was still not enough. I still need more for this month. I will need more for next month. That is why I am doing this.

Specific Needs

I am trying to get enough to pay the bills I have. I need enough to put up so I can pay the bills for the upcoming months and I desperately need to make repairs on my house. So, I need grants and any help that I can get.

When my husband died, I found out he had no insurance and no will. Nothing. I know that he loved me. We had a great marriage. He just thought he had more time.

Now, I am left with a lot of debt and a house that is falling apart. I really need help. Thank you.

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