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Disability Grant Money To Help Caregiver Wife And Diabetes Disabled Husband

by Donita
(St. Joseph, Missouri, USA)

When I'd see Ronald Reagan's wife on TV for an interview, I thought to myself that I look like her, worried about her husband, like so much on a person's shoulders.

My husband got sick three weeks after we married. He had a stroke and low blood sugars. In general, a lot was happening to him.

You feel so alone when all this happens to you and your loved one. You wonder if you're going to be able to handle all this. You try the best that you can.

Shortly after, he lost one of his legs due to diabetes. First it was a tractor weight that fell on his foot. His toes were turning blue. He saw a doctor. They tried several things, but nothing would help so he had it taken off.

This was awful for him. He had such pain, I could hardly live with him, because he would be so angry because of pain. Then I felt like I had the pain with him, because you do. You go through a lot when ones you love suffer.

After so much, the stump became infected and became another something to worry about. It was awful what he was dealing with. You just don't think you can cope with so much, but somehow you do.

I guess for me it was if I got sick, I wouldn't want someone to walk out on me, so this stuck in my head. He couldn't help what he was going through, so I knew in my heart I was going to do the best I could.

His pain has eased a lot, but he still gets swollen when he puts his new leg on, so therefore he doesn't wear it a lot. He uses a walker and I have to help him in and out of shower, which is hard on me cause I'm so small.

I sometimes get down with my back, but I know I can't get sick because he needs my help so much. I don't get to go out much, because we have only the two of us here. We have kids but they have their own lives like all do.

He finally did get an electric wheelchair to be able to go outside and get some enjoyment. We used to go dancing a lot, but none of that now.

You do miss out on a lot when there is handicap in the home, but all we think of is that we are alive and still kicking.

I was just wondering if could we get help with the bath mobility for him. This would help both of us so much, because I have to be on the outside to hold him up and he is grabbing for this bar we put up.

He bought this chair thing, but it is too low and very difficult for him. Anything better than this would be great.

We bought also another bath chair but it's too wide for the tub, so it won't work at all. Any help would be so much appreciated.

I'm sure there's lots of folks out there that have it worse off. I just want to say that I wish you all the best of love and care. Thanks for reading my story.

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Jan 25, 2013
Prayers and blessings
by: Tyrone O Wilson-Bey

I pray that you get the help you need. May Yahu Bless you.

Dec 22, 2012
Dedicated Donita...
by: Don from Accessible.org


King size kudos to you for standing by your man.

Have you tried benefits.gov yet?

It's a legitimate government site that has a terrific, easy-to-use tool called the Benefit Finder.

You answer some questions (without revealing personal data) and then, based on your information, the Finder produces a list of benefits programs that you're elegible for.

The list gives program details and contact information. All you have to do is follow up. :)

Start here:


You'll be glad you did.

Best wishes!
Don from Accessible.org

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