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Disability Grant To Help Accident Disabled Mary With TBI Live Autonomously

by Mary Milliman
(Ponca City, Oklahoma, USA)

My name is Mary Milliman and I am 44 years old, currently living in Ponca City, OK.

I have three beautiful daughters, ages 22, 20 and 18! They are all off in college or testing the waters of adulthood!

After I graduated high school in 1988, I went to Bryan Institute to become a Dental Assistant, which had been my dream since I was eight.

I worked for three years and then got pregnant and married (in that order). I had two more daughters with my ex-husband.

I was a stay-at-home mom and loved it. I had to go back to work after my divorce in 1998 and I worked at the girls' daycare because I was terrified to leave them.

I then worked in manager positions at three big Tulsa stores.

Disability Issues

In April of 2002 I was in a horrific car accident. I was thrown from the car and flew 75 feet. Then the car rolled on me.

I am left with a traumatic brain injury, seizure disorder, stroke, memory loss, ADHD, bipolar disorder, OCD and borderline personality disorder.

My life as I knew it is over. I had to learn to do pretty much everything all over again - walking, talking, feeding myself - everything. I could not care for my daughters so they went to live with their father.

I lived with family until 2010 when I decided I wanted to be independent.

I cannot hold a job because I do not know how I will feel mentally or physically on any given day.

I did volunteer for a month at a hospice in Dallas where I lived with my brother and his family but I could not deal with the emotions or stress.

I was granted SSI in 2004.

Financial Hardship

Money issues are concerning because most of my doctors are in Oklahoma City and that requires a four-hour round trip.

I do not drive for a lot of reasons but mostly the seizure disorder. My boyfriend usually has to take time off work.

I am very grateful for all the help I get from the government but I am on many medications and I get four a month through Sooner Care but I have to pay full price for the others.

I need two more knee operations, one a complete replacement.

My back pain is unbearable some days and my doctor has recommended I see a specialist.

My right ankle and foot also need to be broken and set again. All this overwhelms me.

I will need someone to help me because my boyfriend has to work.

I just see that I need so much money that I don't have.

Income Efforts

I did actually work for my brother, who is a psychotherapist, by phone. I was his scheduler for two weeks. I ha to quit when the stress of not being on my normal schedule caused me to become manic and I freaked out.

I share rent, utilities, gas and food with my boyfriend. He still has two teenage boys in high school so his money is limited.

I receive $721 in SSI a month and $41 from the State of Oklahoma in a supplemental check a month.

My food stamps are $72 per month.

I have learned about the food bank here in Ponca City because sometimes their help is needed and greatly appreciated.

Specific Needs

I need help with the repetitive expenses of travel, monthly bills and medications.

I would like to get my teeth fixed also. I lost seven in the wreck and have had no coverage to get them replaced.

I would just like some relief from the anxiety and the mental obsession of it all. My family has helped but when I decided to make a go of it myself they were not happy.

I don't ask them because they helped me for so long. It is my turn to do it. I want to do it.

I would also like a month of not having to choose between medications and food.

It would be so great if I could get the help I need and also do these surgeries because I'm not getting any younger and my body hurts.

Thank you so much for your time.

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Oct 19, 2014
Next step... Workbook
by: Don from Ability-Mission.org


You are welcome. Your next step is to get the Workbook and follow it closely.

You are well on your way to getting help, which may come in unexpected ways, as you can see from this page:


Don Coggan

Oct 19, 2014
Thank You!!
by: Mary Milliman

Thank you for publishing my story!! It means so much to me!!

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