Disability Grant To Help Young Mother With Bipolar Daughter Get Own Home
by Carla Hemlin
(California, Missouri, USA)
I am a 31-year-old mother living with my six-year-old daughter, my 11-year-old son and my daughter's dad.
My six-year-old daughter is diagnosed as being bipolar and has been on medications since the age of three. She also has sensory issues and with the bipolar it is one explosive combination.
She sleeps poorly even on medications and has struggled socially at school. I get calls from the school on a weekly basis if not more than once a week.
I first noticed that my daughter was not like other children by the time she was just over a year old. Even at that age she didn't sleep a lot and she would bang her head into walls and kick things until her feet became bloody and she would keep kicking and kicking. It pretty much just got worse from there.
After years they finally approved her SSI recently.
My son's school had been making hotline calls concerning abuse. When he came to visit me over Christmas 2012, he told me what was going on, so I was able to file a temporary Child Protection Order. I got custody and he's been living with me since.
My son has PTSD from the abuse and although his dad doesn't see him and rarely pays child support, he is fighting me for custody.
I had to quit my job two weeks ago. After getting my Bachelors degree in May of 2013 I have only been able to find jobs that require you to work evenings and weekends. I tried this for seven months and it came to the point where I had to give my two weeks notice and quit my job.
We were struggling financially with me working and now we are one income short of an income we needed. My daughter's father and I are divorced but we live together for the sake of the children and try to provide a happy home.
He works but the factory he works at no longer works overtime and they have reduced them to 36 hours a week if they are lucky.
He and I lost Medicaid and we don't have the money to pay for insurance so I don't know what I am going to do about my medications. I need medications to keep me sane from all the insanity going on around me not to mention a back problem I have.
The kids thankfully still have Medicaid. In terms of importance, my daughter really needs her medications.
We don't own our own home and we rent. Our rent alone is $650 a month. If we owned our own home and had money we would be able to make changes or improvements that would be beneficial for my daughter.
One good thing that has come out of all of this is that I coupon. I am able to get items for free and because of this and having my own stockpile I have been able to donate to other people that are in need that don't have the money to buy some of the items I am able to get for nothing.
This is also my time away from the madness.
Having to leave my job was one of the hardest things I have had to do. Knowing we need the money, but knowing that my children need me at home and that they were struggling more gave me no option.
I owe almost $70,000 in loans that I more than likely will never be able to pay back and adding more to the debt. It is a big debt mess that makes you feel like you are suffocating constantly trying to figure out what in the world you are going to do.
I recently had to quit my job due to the added problems it was causing the kids. My daughter's dad still works but it isn't enough to pay the bills. They have cut hours and it has been hard on everyone.
My daughter should start getting SSI payments soon, which helps some but still is very little compared to the actual cost of having a child with a disability.
Because of how much time it takes for the kids and the problems my daughter has, I don't have any friends. Family rarely comes over. They tell us how sorry they feel for us but they don't offer to help in any way.
My dad makes good money but he and I haven't had much of a relationship since I was a child. Although he makes over $100,000 a year he always says he is struggling and can't afford to help us.
In a nutshell it is a mess. I have tried everything and have asked for money when it made me sick to ask because I knew what the answer would be.
It would be fantastic if anyone could make a home magically appear with everything in it that my daughter needs.
We need something to get us out of this cycle that I tried so hard to get out of. I need to be able to pay the bills and have a reduction in the amount of stress going on currently.
I need to be able to pay rent and pay for the car and to be able to buy food and clothing for my kids.
People say to get on public assistance such as food stamps, but people don't realize that those people (like me) doing what they can don't benefit from those things as much as people just sitting at home not working.
I need a miracle.
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