Disabled Single Dad Seeks Grant Money To Care For Extended Family
by David Buttler
(Glendale, Arizona, USA)
My name is David. I'm 53. I've been a single parent of three kids since 1985.
In 2003 my daughter was shot in the head. My son saved her, but he became seriously mentally ill.
I've been taking care of them ever since two weeks ago when my oldest daughter had a stroke.
I filed for custody of my granddaughter and will be raising her as well. My daughter passed away on October 13, 2013.
I'm also the caregiver for my 80-year-old mom.
In 2003 I received news that I had vascular disease. I had several types of surgeries through the years.
I tried working but in 2012 I couldn't take the pain any more.
I worked for the state of Arizona for 13 years and had all the benefits. I went on short-term Disability and I'm now on long term Disability.
I hired an attorney and applied for SSI. I am in the middle of that right now.
I am planning funeral arrangements for my daughter. I actually find this therapeutic as I tetter on the edge of a mental breakdown.
Right now I'm receiving $1200 a month from long-term Disability. I owe around $50,000 in medical bills and $15,000 in car payments.
I don't receive child support for my granddaughter. Her dad has not seen her in two years.
We all live in a three-bedroom, one-bath condo. Several times we had to go outside to use the restroom.
My mom and granddaughter share a room. My son and daughter also share a room. It is so crowded that we drive each other crazy.
I had to go in debt for a bigger car to meet our transportation needs.
My mom is on oxygen constantly.
I have attempted to apply for SSI medical insurance. One year ago I hired an attorney but things are taking so long that merely surviving has become an issue.
I'm a member of a Baptist church. The only help I asked for was help with the funeral.
The only thing keeping me sane is that I'm needed so much. I'm in over my head and I know it. I've never had time for friends and not much contact with family.
What I seek is a college education for my granddaughter. I would also like to receive any or all benefits.
I would like to open a gourmet restaurant serving beef, turkey and vegetarian burgers. I would have a large section for people who have special needs. I also would like to offer catering and elegant dining.
Then I could leave this business to my kids when I die. I would staff my restaurant with people having special needs so they can get their independence back and get off of SSI.
This is a new and fresh idea that would work.